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Clays Ohio Wannabe Mom wrote:

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I do not know the heartbreak of not being able to have a child when yearning for one so badly. However... I can't PERSONALLY imagine having a baby at age 50. I know that being able to afford help makes it a little different... but still..... And I know that 50 is not considered 'old' like it was when I was a teenager. Many 50 year old women (and men) are healthy, happy and fit as a fiddle with energy to spare. All I can think of is how tired I was last weekend when I helped my cat deliver five kittens through Saturday evening and Sunday morning.

SO...if it is true, then God bless and good luck!! I will be one of those who will be throwing booties and Red Bull onto the stage!!

Well, I do know that pain. I had my first (and only) child at 40, but that was after two miscarriages. The first miscarriage was utterly devastating. I will forever mourn that loss. I still cannot think about it without experiencing deep grief. When shortly after the first loss I experienced a second miscarriage, I thought I would never have a child. It was for me unthinkable. 12 weeks into my third pregnancy, I started having difficulties. I thought I was going to lose that baby, too. As soon as I could, I rushed to my ob/gyn's office, where the nurse practictioner immediately searched for the fetal heartbeat. There it was--strong and loud! The joy I felt at that moment was like no other. My baby was alive!

I wasn't that much younger than Jaymes. If she yearned for a child like I did, I can only imagine her joy right now. I would have done anything to have a baby. I think I understand her why--I would have done anything. I did not have difficulty conceiving, only staying pregnant. But if I had to do something outside the norm, I would have.

I'm not sure the media have her age right. She might not yet be 50. One of my good friends had her last child at 46, so by today's standards, it is clearly doable.

One last remark: After I had my very very active baby, I used to quip, "Forty-year-old women aren't too old to have babies; they are too old to raise them!" Luckily for Jaymes, she has the financial means to get all the help she needs to be a terrific mom. May God bless and keep her and her baby.

I too have gone through the heartbreak of not being able to have a child. I am 40.. if I was blessed with a child today, tomorrow, 5 years from now. I would be dancing on the ceiling. I am very happy for Jaymes. I am sure she is absolutley delighted.

Before I read this last post.. this is what I had originally come in to say. I just wanted to say, how much I love Clay, and I wish for him whatever makes him happiest. I am adoring his new album, and hoping for it's huge success. I think it's at the point now, with this whole thing, there's not much else to say, at least for me, until, we hear from Clay. And, how ever this story goes.. I support this man 100%. To me he is still the warm, kind hearted, giving, selfless man, with the voice of gold, that he was last week, before this all broke.

And, really, I think howevert this all pans out. .I think the media needs to be looked at quite seriously. Cause weather the story is true or not, the whole thing has been handled so horribly. These so called reporters, should be highly ashamed of themselves. And, they cast stones against Clay? They need to look inside of themselves, and remember when they were studiying journalism. I am sure they were supposed to be taught about ethics, and integrity. But you'd never know it these, days, with the way stories are reported and supposidly researched. If it were up to me.. any media source that reported this story the way that they did, would have to pay a veyr heavy price.

Anyhow.. again, I LOVE CLAY AIKEN. And I wish the very best for him and Jaymes and the baby on the way. I am going back to now to watch the sessions videos! Those are amazing!